Today 8 years ago I married the love of my life Jeremy Caverley. To be honest I did not know if I would be celebrating 8 years of marriage with Jeremy due to the fact that last year on this day we were separated and I was living with my Grandparents crying myself to sleep this night 1 year ago praying God help me to know what to do to save my marriage.
God worked a miracle, Jeremy and I have been back together for 6 months and we are doing very well. The biggest hurdle we fight to get over everyday is the Crohn's Disease and now Fibromyalgia. 85% of marriages that go through an Incurable disease/Chronic illness do not make it. The disease destroys the marriage, but I refuse to allow this disease anymore power over my life and especially my marriage. I will fight to the death for my marriage because it is worth fighting for. Jeremy and I have such an amazing love for each other we have survived so much to be together.
The first obstacle we had to face was the fact our relationship was long distance with him being in northern California in the U.S Coast Guard and me here in Chillicothe Ohio. But we made it and when he got out of the U.S. Coast Guard in July 2007, we drove cross country back to ohio and were married 2 months later. But then just 12 days after we got married another obstacle was thrown at us, I was being admitted to the hospital and having emergency surgery to remove my gallbladder, which at that time we did not know was bad due to undiagnosed Crohn's Disease. And after the surgery I just never recovered and continued to stay sick and then gradually got sicker until I had a nervous break down and was labeled disabled and no longer able to hold down a job due to my ever growing health problems that no one could figure out.
Fast forward to 4 years later on Sept. 7th 2011 just a couple weeks before our 4 year wedding anniversary I was officially diagnosed with Crohn's Disease after finding a good GI specialist.
So our entire marriage has been a fight, every inch we have journeyed on this road in life together has been an epic battle majority of the time. But we have prevailed this far and have no intentions on surrendering now. You HAVE to have unconditional love for your spouse to go through this much, because when the money has all run out, and the sex is no longer there due to health problems, and all you have is each others company that is when you truly find out if the person you are with truly loves you and that they are holding on to their wedding vows "through sickness and in health, til death do us part" that is what marriage is all about.
Now not everything in our marriage has been storm clouds and rain. There are days of beautiful Rainbows and clear blue skies. Like this past weekend, we had the most fantastic Anniversary weekend that we have had in literally 4 years! It all started last Friday night with us going to Grandma and Poppy's for a bon fire. My sister, dad, step mom, Grandma, Poppy and their dogs Maggie and sissy all gathered around Grandma's fire pit and roasted hot dogs and smores! We listened to some great old songs from mine and my sister's childhood and just had a wonderful time and I was NOT sick at all!!!
Then Saturday Jeremy and I went shopping, we stopped and got some fresh sushi for lunch and then we went to Kmart and each got a new pair of tennis shoes, I got 2 new pairs of pants and Jeremy got a new shirt. We came back home for a little while so I could rest due to the fatigue hitting me from all the walking and then we went back out and went to a thrift store where I found some awesome books and a game. then we went to Red Lobster for our BIG Anniversary dinner. I had the Lobster feast meal, and oh my Lord was that the most amazing meal I have EVER had and it did NOT make me sick because sea food is the number 1 food I can eat any time without it hurting me. I ate lobster, crab claws, and 2 types of shrimp! For dessert I had the most awesome carrot cake. Jeremy had the Shrimp feast with shrimp cooked multiple ways and the most tasty fish I have ever tried, and for his dessert he had a choco chip cookie lava cake with a scoop of ice cream and choco sauce over it. This meal was the most expensive meal I have ever had but it was so worth it and our waitress was so great we thanked her for making it so special. Then we came home and literally crashed we both were so tired and then Sunday we literally slept the entire day and just cuddled and watched movies together.
Then today for our anniversary I made bbq ribs in the slow cooker with potato wedges and pumpkin cheese cake for dessert. Jeremy told me those ribs were "DANG GOOD" and coming from a Texan I think I did pretty good for my first time ever making ribs. They literally fell clean off the bones and were just right.
So even though I am sick every day, including today I had hardly any sleep and have been in pain all evening to the point I had to take an emergency med. We were still able to enjoy our anniversary and have a good time.
I love you Jeremy, you are my heart.
No comments:
Post a Comment